A wise-man was participating in a conversation.He contributed by telling the group a joke.All those present were highly amused.After a while he narrated the joke again.This time the response was more tempered.He repeated it thrice and after 4th time repeated,a member of the group burst out:Why are you repeating the joke so many times?Its no longer amusing; its irritating!The wise-man responded:”if repeating a joke ceases to amuse after a few times,then how do we carry on with repeated remembrance of painful stories?
The way a person deals with unpleasantness in the past influences largely,his attitude and approach in dealing with the present.Carrying excess emotional baggage does not augur well;it could affect your self esteem.you might get convinced that you are at the root of all the misfortunes. you may continue to live with an unforgiving criticism of yourself.Like this your already low levels of self esteem could be further make you live a very miserable life.
All the unpleasant memories get fanned by self-pity and self criticism. So the flame of sorrow is kept alive.It is a kin to being a jury at one’s own trial and about being obsessive about fixing the blame rather than the problem.Moving on with life after an unsavory incident requires one to view it as just one among many events and incidents in one’s life.
Whatever will be will be.Reminiscing and reacting to the past is as futile as attempting to resuscitate a corpse.Most people try and strive to uproot the weeds of unpleasant memories.This is not possible as selective amnesia is still in the domain of science fiction.The memories will remain and one needs to let them be.It is far more important not to be reactive about the long buried past and not to use that as a scale to measure oneself.The past should never be empowered to affect the present.Passing a verdict about oneself based entirely on past events deals a body blow to growth and development.
Every event is the outcome of a host of complex factors,most of which are not entirely predictable and controllable.The possibility thinker is positive and has faith in himself believing that any dream is possible.The probability thinker in contrast,is a skeptical individual teeming with self-doubt and fearing the probability of failure.
The unpleasant memories of the past should not become such convictions that bind us and restrict our freedom to evolve and grow.Treat the present as present, a gift free of past.Lets wake up to dream about the wonderful future that beckons us.
The way a person deals with unpleasantness in the past influences largely,his attitude and approach in dealing with the present.Carrying excess emotional baggage does not augur well;it could affect your self esteem.you might get convinced that you are at the root of all the misfortunes. you may continue to live with an unforgiving criticism of yourself.Like this your already low levels of self esteem could be further make you live a very miserable life.
All the unpleasant memories get fanned by self-pity and self criticism. So the flame of sorrow is kept alive.It is a kin to being a jury at one’s own trial and about being obsessive about fixing the blame rather than the problem.Moving on with life after an unsavory incident requires one to view it as just one among many events and incidents in one’s life.
Whatever will be will be.Reminiscing and reacting to the past is as futile as attempting to resuscitate a corpse.Most people try and strive to uproot the weeds of unpleasant memories.This is not possible as selective amnesia is still in the domain of science fiction.The memories will remain and one needs to let them be.It is far more important not to be reactive about the long buried past and not to use that as a scale to measure oneself.The past should never be empowered to affect the present.Passing a verdict about oneself based entirely on past events deals a body blow to growth and development.
Every event is the outcome of a host of complex factors,most of which are not entirely predictable and controllable.The possibility thinker is positive and has faith in himself believing that any dream is possible.The probability thinker in contrast,is a skeptical individual teeming with self-doubt and fearing the probability of failure.
The unpleasant memories of the past should not become such convictions that bind us and restrict our freedom to evolve and grow.Treat the present as present, a gift free of past.Lets wake up to dream about the wonderful future that beckons us.
