Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could be any different.I think for myself and i know many of you,you think forgiving means accepting what has happened to you.Well,it is accepting that it has happened to you,Not accepting that it was ok for it to happen.It is accepting that it has happened and now,’what do i do about it?’ Forgiving is giving up the hope not holding on,hoping,wishing that it could have been any other way than it actually was.Giving up the hope that the past could be any different.And when i got that i think it took me to the next level of being a better person because i don’t hold grudges for anything or any situation and neither should you.It’s letting go so that the past does not hold you prisoner,does not hold you hostage.
Yes,that’s the story of two monks on a pilgrimage and they come across in a village,they come across a young 17 year old girl with a long kimono trying to cross a very muddy road but she’s not daring to step into the mud.So one monk picks her up carries her across the road through the mud,puts her down,and the monks walk on in silence for another 4-5 hours.Just practicing the noble silence and then after 4-5 hours,when they’re getting close to their destination one monk says to the monk who had picked up the girl ‘oh you know,you shouldn’t have done that because we monks are not supposed to even touch women.So you really shouldn’t have picked up that girl.You’re not supposed to do that’.And the other monk says:’oh,are you still carrying that girl? I put her down hours ago’.So the other monk was still carrying the girl,the event,in his head and for hours he was walking with this burden and that shows the reluctance of the human mind to let go of the past.
The truth is,unless you let go,unless you forgive yourself,unless you forgive the situation,unless you realize that the situation is over,you can not move forward.
It’s easy to blame those that have wronged us for just about everything that is wrong with our life.’If it wasn’t for them, i would be happy’.’If it wasn’t for them,i would have more money’.’If they didn’t do this,i would be where i want to be’. Most people get so caught up in blaming that they continue to blame and sabotage their own life long after the person is gone from their life.Most people hold on to the blame because it’s easier than moving on.Those who take responsibility for their life and are wanting to move on and put the past behind them and much more likely to gain freedom,success and happiness.Now this does not mean there aren’t horrible people in the world that have done wrong by others.It is not condoning other’s behavior.It is taking back the power they have from you when you are the one suffering long after they’re gone.Who wins if you keep blaming them? Who wins if you move on,forget about them and create the best life and success you could ever imagine? Who wins if you move on? Who wins if you forget about them? Take back your power.Blame them for what they have done but don’t blame them for what you haven’t done.Blame them for what they have done but bless them for making you stronger,for making you better ,showing you exactly what you don’t want.You can blame the world for bringing them into your life but then,get grateful for all the lessons it taught you,all the strength it gave you.Know in your heart if they knew better,they would do better.
How good does it feel to take that baggage off your shoulders to focus on building your future,What a blessing.Let go.Move forward.Never look back.Let go of the pain from your past.Your future self is begging you.The best revenge is not taking any revenge.It is simply moving on with your life creating the best version of yourself.Life is what you make it,make it magical.Forgive everybody and yourself so that you can live a very peaceful and positive life ahead.
Yes,that’s the story of two monks on a pilgrimage and they come across in a village,they come across a young 17 year old girl with a long kimono trying to cross a very muddy road but she’s not daring to step into the mud.So one monk picks her up carries her across the road through the mud,puts her down,and the monks walk on in silence for another 4-5 hours.Just practicing the noble silence and then after 4-5 hours,when they’re getting close to their destination one monk says to the monk who had picked up the girl ‘oh you know,you shouldn’t have done that because we monks are not supposed to even touch women.So you really shouldn’t have picked up that girl.You’re not supposed to do that’.And the other monk says:’oh,are you still carrying that girl? I put her down hours ago’.So the other monk was still carrying the girl,the event,in his head and for hours he was walking with this burden and that shows the reluctance of the human mind to let go of the past.
The truth is,unless you let go,unless you forgive yourself,unless you forgive the situation,unless you realize that the situation is over,you can not move forward.
It’s easy to blame those that have wronged us for just about everything that is wrong with our life.’If it wasn’t for them, i would be happy’.’If it wasn’t for them,i would have more money’.’If they didn’t do this,i would be where i want to be’. Most people get so caught up in blaming that they continue to blame and sabotage their own life long after the person is gone from their life.Most people hold on to the blame because it’s easier than moving on.Those who take responsibility for their life and are wanting to move on and put the past behind them and much more likely to gain freedom,success and happiness.Now this does not mean there aren’t horrible people in the world that have done wrong by others.It is not condoning other’s behavior.It is taking back the power they have from you when you are the one suffering long after they’re gone.Who wins if you keep blaming them? Who wins if you move on,forget about them and create the best life and success you could ever imagine? Who wins if you move on? Who wins if you forget about them? Take back your power.Blame them for what they have done but don’t blame them for what you haven’t done.Blame them for what they have done but bless them for making you stronger,for making you better ,showing you exactly what you don’t want.You can blame the world for bringing them into your life but then,get grateful for all the lessons it taught you,all the strength it gave you.Know in your heart if they knew better,they would do better.
How good does it feel to take that baggage off your shoulders to focus on building your future,What a blessing.Let go.Move forward.Never look back.Let go of the pain from your past.Your future self is begging you.The best revenge is not taking any revenge.It is simply moving on with your life creating the best version of yourself.Life is what you make it,make it magical.Forgive everybody and yourself so that you can live a very peaceful and positive life ahead.
