To live amicably in society we need to be able to communicate well. One of the deterrents to good communications is anger. A feeling of emptiness always follows anger. Anger takes all that you have within you and so you are left vacuous and dissipated in its wake. Different methods are there to help us tackle our anger, but that is only anger management. It does not get to the root.
To combat anger we have to understand the reasons for it before treating it. A verse in the BHAGBAD GEETA says that our sense organs are always seeking sensory pleasures and objects that give pleasure. The seeking develops into an attachment, even an obsession. Naturally, then you like to possess that which you desire and in the desire to possess, anger has its roots. The desire to possess may be related to a person, object or situation.
Till the desire is fulfilled, anger comes to support in the struggle to possess. It may come as a means of self-defense but becomes so powerful that it makes you forget your moorings and gradually even your memory. You lose touch with yourself. You forget who you are. That is why when a person is angry he behaves in a fashion that is uncharacteristic of him. A good example is road rage.
An angry man has poor memory. With loss of memory, by losing touch with yourself, by forgetting who you really are, you lose your mental balance. You no longer think straight. The root cause for all this is desire.
True ,it is difficult to live a life completely free of anger. But once we are aware of the cause of anger and the route it takes to ruin our life, we become wary of getting angry. We have to remember it at all times as a reason why simple life and living have been held in such high esteem. That is why our life and philosophy have been formulated such that we keep desire to its minimum.
If you are deeply satisfied then there are no expectations, no desires. That is why the Upanishads says “LET GO AND REJOICE”.
When you let go, your dimensions are becoming bigger. It is difficult to let go, but small attempts can definitely be made. What should one let go? One should let go of all hurtful and painful memories. Stop carrying anything of yesterday into today. Otherwise regret and pain follow us like shadows. Life itself has a tendency to let go, then why are we clinging to thoughts and ideas of the past ?If we let go, there is peace instantly, then why carry that burden?
